50 Kinky Sex Ideas for Spicing Up Your Life!

kinky sex ideasIn the beginning of most relationships, sex and lust flow very easily. Then after a few years or months, maybe a kid or two, things start to fizzle down; sex turns into something that happens on a Tuesday or gets put on the back burner for other things that are going on in your lives. While we understand that somethings are more important than sex (maybe), we also know that when you get out of the swing of things then sex can become mundane and possibly boring, so we’ve compiled a short list of ideas to spice back up the kinky dating you may have experienced in the beginnings of your relationship.

This list can also be a good guide for singles and couples who are interested in kinky dating or kinky sex ideas!


Kinky vs Fetish


Before we start the list, I’d like to define the difference between kink and fetish. A fetish focuses on an object, such as leather or ropes, and the individual gets pleasure from using the objects or from the object of their desire. A Kink focuses more on the pleasure aspect of what is being done, sometimes the two can of course cross over!

Some people explore Kinks and discover they have found one of their new favorite fetishes! There is nothing wrong with either fetishes or kinks! But with that being said, you should always use caution and look into local laws when exploring some erotic acts. It may be hard to explain to law enforcement that the internet made me do it, and we take no responsibility for your legal expenses! We also advise you to establish a safe word, which means a phrase that you and your partner(s) know that means for the act to stop. You have been warned! Now let’s get KINKY!!


Kinky Ideas 101


#1 Grope each other in a bar or club, throw in some heavy petting or grinding if you’re feeling brave and the establishment is a safe environment!

#2 Explore Voyeurism, which means watching someone else have sex!

#3 Make a Homemade Porn, even if you don’t ever share it, then it’ll be a kinky fun time!

#4 Eat the butthole! Seriously this can go for guys or girls! There are many nerves in the anus and it can be a taboo act as well!

#5 Make out in a public park!

#6 Play dress up! Buy that French Maid Costume! Get the Loincloth! Have fun with it!

#7 Talk about your past sexual fantasies and try to act them out, remember that one time at band camp?

#8 Go for a swim in the nude! There are many nude beaches around and if you can’t find one, maybe you have a friend or two who would like to open their pool up to you! The more the merrier after all!

#9 Suck or eat out your partner while they’re doing something that requires their attention! Maybe road head or crawling under the desk while their on a conference chat!

#10 Check out a local sex store! Seriously there are so many things you can find in those places that you may want to try out!

#11 Go to a swingers party! Get some mask and no one knows who you are! Remember to bring protection!

#12 Stop at a rest stop or public restroom to have a quick romp!

#13 Don’t wear underwear, get some grey sweat pants! #EggPlantEveryday

#14 Finger her while in public or at a restaurant while no one is looking!

#15 Get a copy of a Sex Calendar, it shows you a different position to do everyday!

#16 Buy the Kamasutra! Ancient knowledge, but still relevant!

#17 Get a hotel room, just to change it up a bit! But don’t get too messy, they do have to clean them up afterwards!

#18 Give each other very sexy nicknames for each others private parts, “Here’s Charlie!”

#19 Get a nude or scantily clad photoshoot! Photographers can do wonders with editing software if you’re not confident! These make great presents for your partner too!

#20 Have a threesome! Agree on it first, with someone who knows the limits and can agree that it is a no strings attached situation!

#21 Have sex ALL DAY LONG! Seriously just do it until both of you give out!

#22 Join the mile high club! (Having sex in the bathroom of an airplane)

#23 Have drunk sex!

#24 Try some 50 Shades of Grey stuff out! Tie her or him up and have your way! (safeword advised)

#25 Have sex in a family bathroom at Walmart! The doors lock, just make sure it’s the two of you and you better make it quick! Very adventurous.

#26 If you live in a place with legal recreational drugs, try it out and have a sexy time!

#27 Try some heavy BDSM! Explore what you both would be comfortable doing.

#28 Think about pegging! Which is when a female penetrates a male with a strap on, totally not gay and fun! You would be surprised at how intense an orgasm can be from prostate stimulation.

#29 Stick a finger up his bum while you’re giving him a blow job! It may feel weird at first, but it’s a start!

#30 Explore lubrication, silicon or water based. There are also flavored lubes! (They even have BACON FLAVORED LUBE! What an amazing time to be alive!)

#31 Give him a hand job while in a theatre! Everyone knows the ol’ hole in the bucket trick! Just becareful and pick a seat away from exposure!

#32 Have sex with the curtains open and get comfortably close to the window.

#33 Scratch each other and use your nails. Sometimes, pain can bring more pleasure.

#34 Leave the hotel room door open for the waiter while having sex.

#35 Have resistance sex and pretend like you’re being groped and molested.

#36 Have sex in water, be it a pool or in the ocean.

#37 Bring in a few sex toys to bed.

#38 Play naughty truth and dare and strip poker with friends.

#39 Have drunk sex after a wild night of partying.

#40 Imagine having sex with someone else and talk to your partner about it.


10 Kinky-er Kinky ideas


kitchen kinky sex#1 Are you bold enough to try swapping and swinging with other couples?

#2 Ropes and bondage can be awkward for beginners, but they’re a lot of fun for the seasoned kinky lovers.

#3 Clamps and whips can hurt, but at the right places, even pain can be a huge turn on.

#4 Like being the dominatrix? Try playing submissive to the kinkiest of commands with your partner.

#5 Have sex in risky places.

#6 Like peeing on each other while having sex? Golden river fantasies were made for you.

#7 Watch your partner having sex with someone else.

#8 Use a double dildo with your man and penetrate him while getting penetrated yourself.

#9 Have a threesome with someone both of you admire or like.

#10 Have sex and flaunt yourselves on your webcam to other couples. Just remember to keep your face out of the camera though.

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