You know that you are attracted to your partner, but you might think that kinky sex would take things up another level. Often times you get to a point in a relationship where you need a bit more passion or excitement.
If you find yourself in this situation then you want to try to become kinky partners and see what happens. This can create a really amazing sex life for both of you and help to keep things passionate and exciting for a long time. Here’s how to do it and you will be amazed at the results.
Surprise your partner and take things up a notch
Think of the type of reaction you might get if you surprised your partner in bed one day. You will find that the key to making kinky partners work is the element of surprise. So it has to start one day and it can be something as simple and seemingly innocent as a blindfold or some handcuffs.
The thing about this type of sex is that there is truly no right or wrong. This is for the two of you to decide. You know that you want to turn up the excitement in your sex life, and this is the best time to do it. Try to surprise your partner in bed with some fun and unique twist.
Don’t lay all of your cards on the table so to speak. You have to leave some things to work your way up to. Start small but try a new position or one simple but fun sex toy. See how they like it, and better yet see how well a surprise goes over. This can help to unleash a side of both of you that you didn’t know existed, and it can make for a really fulfilling sex life.
Start slowly but add in some toys for a fun twist
Some may say that the key to kinky sex is to add in some toys. You may want to start slowly so you don’t overwhelm your partner. There are so many toys to choose from though, that this can make an awesome way to get things going.
It’s easy enough to go out and get the right sex toys, and if you start small then you can build upon it. Think of what excites you and what you think that your partner may like. It can be just one toy that you add into your normal sex life that generates excitement that you never imagined.
You never know until you try and though some people are unsure about sex toys, most people are really pleased with the results. This can help to align the two of you as kinky partners, and there’s a good chance that you will just keep adding to your toy supply. This can make a good sex life mind blowing and it can be fun for both of you!
Watch some porn together to get ideas and add excitement
This may feel odd to you at first. This may be something that you only hear about others doing, and you may even think it to be strange. The thing is though that if you want to take up the excitement in your relationship, then porn can be a really great way to do it. Just the act of watching it together bonds you in a whole new way.
When you put on some porn and sit there to watch it together, you are opening yourself up. Not only will you get some kinky sex ideas, but you are also going to come together in a really raw way. You are making yourself vulnerable and so is your partner, and this adds to the attraction in a way that is almost indescribable.
You can really figure out what you both like and therefore appeal to that. You can get new ideas. You can talk about fantasies because there is a certain openness between you and your kinky partner that didn’t exist before. Depending on the type of porn that you watch, it may really open the floodgates with ideas and even communication.
Don’t be afraid of this because porn exists for a reason in relationships. It may become a main staple in your sex life, or it might just help to add in that excitement and passion that you’ve been looking for. Try it and see what happens because porn can be the gateway to some pretty awesome sex between partners.
Talk to each other honestly about fetishes or kinky interests
Sometimes the best way to become kinky partners with similar interests is to just talk it out. You might not think that your partner is into something until you talk to them. They just might have some crazy interests that you had no idea about. How blown away would you be if you found out that they had some fantasy that you never imagined?
Open and honest communication is the only way to make BDSM, fetishes, or kinky sex in any capacity work. Not only does it help you to set limits, but it also helps you to uncover some amazing opportunities. If you find out that they are into something that you never envisioned, then it takes things to a whole new level.
Their fantasies may be way out there and it may give you some new ideas. Not only that but you just might find that you share some fetishes or fantasies that you didn’t realize. Talk through what you want to do with each other and to each other, and it will build excitement and generate some new fun ideas.
Keep things interesting and spontaneous with sex at another level any time
One of the best ways to incorporate kinky sex into a relationship is to do it anytime and anywhere. How amazing would it be to have sex in a public space? How awesome would it be to surprise your partner at work or in a totally unexpected location? Sometimes it’s not just about how you do it or what you do, but also about where you do it.
Sure you can always try adding in another person or use toys, but appealing to your more voyeuristic side can be erotic and exciting. Suggest that the two of you get it on in a public bathroom or dressing room at a store. Get your partner going and then have sex in a park at night or somewhere that you could be spotted.
The key is of course not to get caught, but that adds to the excitement! Everyone has a little voyeur in them and this is a crazy fun way to appeal to that. It’s even better if you surprise your partner with spontaneous sex and do it in a public setting. They totally won’t be expecting it and this will turn them on in a big way.
So remember that it’s all about the excitement, the spontaneity, and it’s just as much about where as it is about how. Kinky partners sometime become that way by trying new things together. Fulfill your fantasies and there’s a good chance you might find that they share the same ones. Sex in a public spot without getting caught is crazy exciting!
Kinky partners aren’t made overnight but these ideas can get things going. Be patient and talk to one another to ensure that you find the right elements. You can create a really amazing sex life that stands the test of time.
You can please each other in a whole new way. You can create the kinky sex life that you always wanted if you take it one step at a time—and now you know how to do it!